Redefine Your Purpose

In one of my previous posts, I mentioned about setting a new purpose. Maybe you will have doubts about this.

However, take time to read through the reasons in this list. If you check more than four reasons, you will know what to do!

• Something is missing in my life.
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• I don't feel joy in all I do.
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• I dislike my present job, but I have other no options.
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• I want to start something new, but I just don't have the courage to do so.
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• I can contribute more than I do now.
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• I have been spending so much time doing 'what I should' and not 'what I want'.
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• I have been busy doing someone else's work.
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• I always compare myself to others.
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• I feel bad when I see others being more successful than I am.
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• I always try to make things happen rather than to allow things happen.
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• I don't know what to look for, although I know I lack something
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• I'm not happy although I seem to have everything.

Not being happy and satisfied can cause stress and depression. If you know you need to do something about it, this is the time.

Hiding behind so many masks is not a good way to be yourself. I have decided to redefine my purpose. I have tried to unmask myself, layer by layer and by doing so, I know I'll reach my purpose easily.

Why Hiding Behind Masks

Most of us are not really living because we care too much of what others think of us. We always want to please them. We always try to explain what we are doing. In the end, we live as who they want, not who we are supposed to be.

Growing up, many of us did not get to choose what we wanted to be. We had to follow what our parents or families wished us to be. We had to give up dreams, just to satisfy them in order to cause fewer problems for ourselves. We had given up the rights to make decisions for ourselves once, why must we do it again?

Consulting others’ opinions and consulting others to receive approvals are different from each other.

We consult someone’s opinion after making a decision. We have already decided to take the risk. We will take the action even if the feedback is not favourable.

Asking for approval means we are ready to listen to the answers and have not decided yet. If the answers are unfavourable, we will not do anything. This also means we allow others to have a say in our lives. The sense to please others is so great here that we eventually feel paralyze by all the comment others made. We cannot afford to make another step forward and this is a disappointment.

When we have a disappointment, we tend to hide behind a mask. There will be more and more disapointments and then, our masks keep changing. All our entire lives, we have hundred if not thousands of masks. We hide all our feelings behind them, even joys!

When we finally can do something for oour very own, we found that we have lost the courage .... and all those masks cannot help us anymore!