To Change or Not To Change?

 What's keeping you from venturing into the new world? Habits or fear? Surely it must not be habits. Habits can be re-learned. It is always fear that keeps us from reaching out ... 


Nobody but you have  the power to change your thoughts, emotions and actions. You know very well that everything in your own life is your own choice and choosing. 

However, in truth, we still can't deny the influence of others in our lives. We need to be very clear what are the credentials of the influencing force and who is the force. 


We can't improve ourselves if we choose to remain the same all the time. If we are not willing to change for the better, then, we lost control of the better things in our lives.

Rising Above Storms of Life

Recently I read an article on how eagles depend on strong winds of the storms to soar above the storms. Eagles know how to use storms to lift it higher, so that they would not be hit in any storm.

All of us experience personal storms in our life. Whether big or small storms, we come to understand that these are challenges we have to face in our life. Some storms are able to lift us up, yet there are storms that we dare not brave through.

Understanding that storms in our life are helping us to grow out of our comfort zone is not easy. It takes us time to realize that growth from challenges is what life is about. When one does understand that, he will be able to rise above the winds of storms that brings all sort of disappointment in his life.

How we handle the storms in our life is very important. We must always be ready and face these storms calmly. Accept that there is a purpose in every challenge. Gather all your energy to soar above the storm and overcome the challenge!

 

To Plan or Not to Plan

I went away for a two week excursion/vacation with some friends. I would admit, if it's not because of this friend who took the pain to plan and do researches for the places we would be going, the holidays would be in vain.

Yes, it is true not everyone would be pleased with what were planned, but at least there would be somewhere to go and something to be done if a plan went awry. Therefore, I was grateful with her careful and detailed planning. 

Life needs to be planned carefully too. We are going to an unknown journey with more than ten years ahead. If we just walk on unplanned, we will end up nowhere, without any destination to be sure. It's just like sailing on a ship guided by the wind.

For some people, unknown journeys are adventures. Yet the truth is ... these journeys are a waste of time and effort. We all have limited time on Earth, to live as we want. We do not know when the time is up or when we would face another misadventure. We don't want to end up as disappointments to our family and friends, do we? 

It doesn't take long to plan. Planning for every day is the first step to plan for tomorrow. There will always be new things to be discovered, new lessons to be learnt and new people to be met. Everything is up to us... to you; how you want your life to be ....

A good planning takes you a long way .... even though you have only 24 hours a day!

To Fail is to Start Over Again

There are so many wise sayings about how we must start again after a failure. Yes, nobody stays as a loser all the time. Even a loser wins once a while.

An acquaintance once failed in his own business. He used up all his savings to start new businesses, one after another. These businesses failed too.

He almost gave up when a friend of his offered him a job as a franchise adviser. As he had a family to support, he accepted the offer. He made lots of mistakes when he started the job. Other younger franchise advisers thought he was eccentric and avoided him altogether.

He tried various means to get himself ready for the challenges of the job. He practically memorized the handbook and all the information given to him. He was in desperate trying to do well.

The toil was really stressful. He lost his humor and friendly smile. He stared at everyone with an empty glare. He did not know what went wrong with him. His boss was happy as he could bring in more customers than usual. His family was happy as he could bring home money. Yet, he was not happy.

One day his young daughter borrowed a story book from the town library. She left it on the dinner table. He picked it up and browse through it. He was amused with the simple story. However, he was attracted by a line at the end of the story ......

"If you have failed, then start over again. After all, failing means you have a good chance to come clean again."

This acquaintance smiled for the first time in three years. It was like his mind was cleared for the first time in years. He bought the franchise for himself and became a business owner again. Only this time, he knew he could always begin all over again as long as he did not give up hope.

Which would you choose: start all over again or mourn over your losses?

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So, Another Failure – Get Better or Bitter?

Many people have forgotten that failures occurred because they have not prepared themselves extensively for the tasks. Whether it is business, family or personal, every matter needs planning. Maybe the masters were right after all, 'If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.'

We just do not fail accidentally. There must be certain reasons behind the failures.

Moaning for a past failure seems to be an endless game we like to play with ourselves. We ought to feel bitter because we fail, yet to allow the bitterness to get into our lives is totally another story. When will we get the chance to move on if the past keeps on catching up with the present?

There are many ways to make ourselves feel better. One of them is to walk out of the bitterness. Analyze the reasons why you failed, if you must. Then forget all about it. The sun is still going to rise again tomorrow. There is no reason to feel bitter.

Life is hard enough without you brooding about your failures. People are failing every minute of the day. Yet, they pick up where they failed and start over again. It does not matter if you walk three steps forward but move two steps backwards; because you are still a step forward! Bravo!

Learn your lessons and know where you are heading!

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Who are you – the listener or the talker?

When I was young, I listened to every grown-up I met. My parents said children ought to listen more than talk. I took the advice by heart. I listened politely as the grown-ups rattled on and on. Some of their stories were quite interesting. However, some just loved to complain.

Growing up, I came to understand the value of ‘more listening than talking’. A listener learns more than the speaker. Listening helps us to discern between right and wrong. The rule of ‘two ears and a mouth’ means that we must listen twice more than we talk. A good listener is actually a silent flatterer.

What did succesful people do that made them instoppable?

No guessing. They listened. They listened to know what others want. They listened carefully to every complain they received. They did not once make any comment or criticism because they did not have to. They showed to others that they cared because they listened. They learned what others missed.

A talker likes to listen to his own voice. The louder he talks, he lonier he will be. In the end, the has landed himself in hot soup! It is just like a child would say, “When you open your mouth too long, your brains will fly out!”

Learn from the wise owl :

A wise old owl sat on an oak,

The more he saw the less he spoke,

The less he spoke the more he heard,

Why aren’t we like that wise old owl?

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