So, Another Failure – Get Better or Bitter?

Many people have forgotten that failures occurred because they have not prepared themselves extensively for the tasks. Whether it is business, family or personal, every matter needs planning. Maybe the masters were right after all, 'If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.'

We just do not fail accidentally. There must be certain reasons behind the failures.

Moaning for a past failure seems to be an endless game we like to play with ourselves. We ought to feel bitter because we fail, yet to allow the bitterness to get into our lives is totally another story. When will we get the chance to move on if the past keeps on catching up with the present?

There are many ways to make ourselves feel better. One of them is to walk out of the bitterness. Analyze the reasons why you failed, if you must. Then forget all about it. The sun is still going to rise again tomorrow. There is no reason to feel bitter.

Life is hard enough without you brooding about your failures. People are failing every minute of the day. Yet, they pick up where they failed and start over again. It does not matter if you walk three steps forward but move two steps backwards; because you are still a step forward! Bravo!

Learn your lessons and know where you are heading!

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Am I a Failure?

Yes you are, because your self-concept says so. Be serious! Your self-concept is very important.

When you start being suspicious of your abilities, your self-concept is not strong. You expect failures!

In every task you are assigned, remember that people expect you to fail. You may not think that way, but it is true. Behind that sweet smile, behind that 'I can count on you' look, there is the 'you are a failure' thought.

Well, it is up to you to form your own self concept. You set your own ceilings. When you think you are a failure, you will fail. No matter how much effort you have put in the task.

The task here is, can you readjust your self image again? You still have many choices because life is about options. Being alive is an option. Expecting failure is another option. Since you can choose to fail, you can easily choose to succeed too.

When you have failed (because you have expected it, remember), do not go around and repeat this phrase "Who? Me? A Failure?" Yes, you are because you wanted and begged for it.

Your self concept is low and you expect only failures. Being humble is good. But, being too humble is a waste of your living effort!

So, recompose your self concept again..... No ceiling is too high but any ceiling can be too low!


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Could Have, Might Have, Should Have

'Don't fear failure so much that you refuse to try new things. The saddest summary of life contains three descriptions; could have, might have and should have.' - Louis Boone

Isn't that just any normal man would describe himself?
I could have .....
I might have .....
I should have ......

However, when one starts to live in these unrealized thoughts, one will never move forward. Yes, indeed failures make us nobody. Living in failure only reminds us that we could have, might have and should ..... but never really have had!

Start living in reality. Do things you want to do. Many people fail everyday. There are many still who made it. You will too, if you start doing something positive instead of lamenting what you 'could have, might have and should have' IF you are successful!



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Accept Failures and Forget About Them

You may laugh or maybe swear when you read this post. But, it is true. Only a failure will always look back and be reminded of the sad episode of his life.

Life is a journey to be appreciated. Lingering too long in the past and unhappy moments will only stop you from moving forward. So, accept the failures.

Forget those failures. Leave them behind you. Acknowledging you have failed the moment creates new energy and strength for you to face the next moment. Learn from the unhappy moments.

Life is not just a bed of roses! Life can be a bed of jasmines or chrysanthemums too!

Move forward!

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Remember That You Have Done it Before

Have you tried to do something but failed? Many people would not dare to try at all because they are afraid of failure. Nobody is immune from failures. It will happen to anyone.

Doing something for yourself is a serious thing. You want to get the result of the deed. That was why you do it.

Remember, people see you as ‘doing’ and not ‘trying’! ‘Trying’ is either an effort or just an intention. ‘Doing’ actually brings you closer to what you want. ‘Trying’ keeps you away because of fear of failure.

Even if you failed, you have done something!