Sunday, May 24, 2009
Wednesday, May 6, 2009
So, Another Failure – Get Better or Bitter?
We just do not fail accidentally. There must be certain reasons behind the failures.
Moaning for a past failure seems to be an endless game we like to play with ourselves. We ought to feel bitter because we fail, yet to allow the bitterness to get into our lives is totally another story. When will we get the chance to move on if the past keeps on catching up with the present?
There are many ways to make ourselves feel better. One of them is to walk out of the bitterness. Analyze the reasons why you failed, if you must. Then forget all about it. The sun is still going to rise again tomorrow. There is no reason to feel bitter.
Life is hard enough without you brooding about your failures. People are failing every minute of the day. Yet, they pick up where they failed and start over again. It does not matter if you walk three steps forward but move two steps backwards; because you are still a step forward! Bravo!
Learn your lessons and know where you are heading!
Wednesday, April 15, 2009
Who are you – the listener or the talker?
When I was young, I listened to every grown-up I met. My parents said children ought to listen more than talk. I took the advice by heart. I listened politely as the grown-ups rattled on and on. Some of their stories were quite interesting. However, some just loved to complain.
Growing up, I came to understand the value of ‘more listening than talking’. A listener learns more than the speaker. Listening helps us to discern between right and wrong. The rule of ‘two ears and a mouth’ means that we must listen twice more than we talk. A good listener is actually a silent flatterer.
What did succesful people do that made them instoppable?
No guessing. They listened. They listened to know what others want. They listened carefully to every complain they received. They did not once make any comment or criticism because they did not have to. They showed to others that they cared because they listened. They learned what others missed.
A talker likes to listen to his own voice. The louder he talks, he lonier he will be. In the end, the has landed himself in hot soup! It is just like a child would say, “When you open your mouth too long, your brains will fly out!”
Learn from the wise owl :
A wise old owl sat on an oak,
The more he saw the less he spoke,
The less he spoke the more he heard,
Why aren’t we like that wise old owl?
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Sunday, March 22, 2009
Monday, March 9, 2009
Thursday, February 12, 2009
Handle Discouragement Effectively (4)
Whenever we face discouragement, we often have low expectations of ourselves to overcome our problems. Thus, we often neglect to find the solution to our problems. Instead, we delay and drag the problem to another level.
Having and possessing the right expectations is important. A positive person often sets realistic goals for himself. He does not waste his time reflecting on his mistakes should he fails. He forgives himself for his limitations and moves on with his life as soon as possible.
He knows what to expect because he only focus on what he can achieve. Thus, he is not disappointed if he fails. He is not depressed, anxious and obsessed with the ‘need to impress others’.
You too, can handle your own discouragement. A right expectation can help you to achieve what you want in life. Set for yourself realistic goals at first. Identify what you can achieve and what you cannot.
Later, you can set some daring and unrealistic goals. By then, you have possessed a better attitude to handle failures.
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