Never Give Up Yourself

Once you give up yourself, nothing will come true. If you stay on, at least you will see hope. When you give up the little hope you have, you have nothing left. Light appears after the darkest hour passes; however, the light would never appear again if you give up during your darkest hour.

Do What You Love

Do what you love and love what you do. Nothing beats the feeling and emotion that come with it. There is nothing we cannot do if we love what we are doing. The passion, time and effort spent are worthwhile.

If the first time failed, there is still another chance, and many more after that. There are always ways to improve. As you love what you do, you would not mind doing it more than once. That is where the improvements come in.

Loving what we do is very important. Sometimes, we can see some people around us doing what they describe as ‘hobbies’. Yet, they do not expect any monetary rewards from their labor of love.

Even if you do not like what you are doing now, you can still put in a little effort to do it well. Doing a work well will make you feel better and happier. Putting a little effort into a work will make you feel satisfied. Putting in a little passion in the work will produce better result. There would be chances that you will like the work after doing it many times!

Unless you love what you do, you should consider doing something else!

Read a Joke ... Laugh It Out

Have you read any jokes lately? Or, have you been too busy to spare yourself a joke or two every day?

Jokes are made up to give us the needed break from the monotonous of our daily work. Jokes put a grin on our face. Others may not know it, but you will feel better after reading a joke.

If there is nobody around, then you should laugh out loud! I always do that. I do feel better after that, even though I have lots of problems waiting to be solved. Nothing beats the light feeling in my chest as I laugh. I can also feel that everything is going to be all right again.

With the advance of technology, it is not difficult to find a joke to read. There are telcos that offer subscriptions to daily jokes, right to your mobile gadgets!

Read a joke, and if you still feel unhappy, then read more. There is at least a joke that can put a smile on your face again.

Stop Using the Word ‘TRY’

This is a very common word – TRY.

“I’ll try doing that later.”

“I’ll try to wash this.”

“I’ll try to ……”

These are some very common sentences we hear utter by people around us, including ourselves, consciously or unconsciously.

This ‘try’ word always comes with words like ‘later’, ‘tomorrow’, ‘next time’ or words that denote afterward, not now. This then follows by procrastination.

Whatever goals we have set for ourselves are not achieved because our excuses are summarized into a single word …. ‘try’- we are just ‘trying’. We would not be disappointed even if we did not do anything at all. Everything is so simple when we use the word ‘try’!

If you are going to say, “I’ll try to stop using ‘try’.” You will end up trying many times and there will be no stop at all. Just say, “I’ll stop using that word.” Period. That is one less word to say!

Discard Your Self Pity

When we are weak, we bundle ourselves into a state of self pity. This is the worst kind of addiction anyone can be addicted to. Self pity makes us numb to the exuberance of lives around us. At this time, creativity is dead. Our lives just stop moving forward at that moment.

I would not describe in detail the state of self-pity here. Enough to say that it is not going to make us feel proud of ourselves.

Now, it is time to discard our self pity. It is time we learn to laugh at our mistakes and start all over again. Nobody grows under extreme pathetic situation. Learn to walk out of it, a small step at a time, but with strong steadfast steps.

To be ‘whole’ you again, you have to move on with your life.

Stop Being A Victim

We are victims of our own doings and thoughts. We are living in fear as victims.

Victims are always afraid of rejections, as if being rejected means they are worthless. Some of the victims even take it so personally that they lost their lives’ direction.

To avoid rejection, a victim chooses not to ask. Even if he has good intention to do something, he does not ask favours from others. A victim always has a superstitious fear of rejections.

Today, we are going to step out. We are going to make requests and ask favours from people around us. We must accept the fact that people may not be able to fulfill our requests. There are people who will say ‘no’ to us. However, these are not rejections.

Sometimes, our requests are just too ‘impossible’ for them!

So, go out and stop being a victim. Make requests and be thrilled even if the answers are ‘no’!

Stop Being Weak

We are all weak, sometimes. However, we need to stop being weak. Weakness can cause us many problems. Other people can see the weaken us, but we can’t.

As weaklings, we limited and restricted ourselves to many possibilities because we thought we couldn’t do them. This situation also inappropriately restricted our self-confidence and self-respect. Gradually, we lost without any fight.

Stop being weak, as we only have one life. We are responsible for every bit of our life. We don’t live for others to see. We live for ourselves. We are our own testifiers.

Be my own ‘Owner’

My recent readings brought me to a new term -- ‘owner’. I am the owner of my life. Better still, I am the only owner of my own emotion and feelings.

Being an owner means I actually get to be in control of how I act and react, feel and think.

I am responsible over what I said to others. I would not hide when there is a problem.

Now, I heard, observed and experienced events that I once thought would crush me. I’m still standing and enjoying every moment of it! As the owner of my own life, I have every right to do something in each situation, good or bad.

Release Your Resentments

Don't ever allow your resentments tear you apart. Harbouring painful pasts is not going to be good to our heart, body and mind. Piling the resentments against others make us slaves to them. The pain in our hearts is not going to be erased by taking revenge. Plotting revenge is also eating us up, inside out.

The best is, to release all these resentments by refusing to relive what has been tearing us apart. Leave all the pain to the Higher Self.

By doing so, we have released our life from the grip of resentments. We are ready to face the future.

Do Not Judge

We all hear this every day: Do not judge a book by its cover.

These days, we may not judge a book by its cover but we judge our fellow colleagues, friends, neighbours and even family members by their living status.

We think ourselves more superior than those who live in small houses, drive small cars and shop at economy malls. With what do we measure? How we judge others will eventually be the measure that is used against us.

It is also quite tiring trying to live above others. To do that, we have to be conscious with what we do, say and think. We have lost the freedom to be 'us', we have suddenly become 'examples'. Afterall, to be judges, we have to be faultless in and out.

Step down as judge and start to yourself ....... truly yourself and start living.